A Different Perspective on Being Enough

I posted this in my social media last week and there was a wave of meaningful and deep conversations from various women pouring in my DMs thereafter.

Feeling ‘I am not good enough’ is one of the major gender inhibitors especially for women. But what I am going to say next from here is a very different perspective on what being enough means for some of us and how to honour our seasons.

On making our choices

Let me be very honest with you. I have had huge judgements for women who are tremendously gifted but have chosen to not pursue their careers. I felt this deep frutration inside me thinking they are wasting their magic and their life. I have 2-3 close friends and a very loved family member of mine whom I thought can do more and better with who they are.

In my head, they were the victims and I wanted them to be the heroines of their life. Where as in reality, they believed them to be the heroines of their life with the choices they had made. They were immensely happy being with their family and the choice they had made. Who was I to judge them and their choice?

This reality dawned on me quite later and since then I respect and honour each individual’s choice. Our life is not just about the gifts which we bring in our career, these women were bringing their gifts to their loved ones. Now, isn’t that amazing? Our magic is magic, and there is no hierarchy of where we bring our magic. All that should really matter is that we believe in our magic and bring it out every single day of ours for a heightened life experience.

If you are someone who has chosen to bring your magic this way and keep on hearing from people that you can do better, here is one tip for you -

“Close your eyes and connect with why you made this choice. Choose a favourite colour of yours and let the energy of your why circulate from the top of your head till the tip of your toe in this favourite colour of yours. When you will connect with your choice and the intention behind it so strongly, the external noise and chaos will slowly stop affecting you.”

On believing what you are doing is enough

Here is a conversation snippet from a woman in my DMs this week -

“First things first I want myself to believe what I'm doing is enough. It's like I keep pestering myself in my head that I'm not able to do everything I have to. But then some times I feel what I'm doing is because I can do that much only.”

This is pure gold here. A woman understanding the essence of accepting with grace that what she is doing is enough considering her current season.

If you are also sailing in the same boat as hers, here is my reply to her which gave a different perspective -

“Where a world is running to get and do everything, you are being the wiser one. Be proud. Define what is enough for you and stick to it. Do not let external benchmarks define success or being enough for you”.

Success and being enough can mean different things to different people. The crux lies in knowing it in your heart what really matters and not basing these definitions on the conventional society expectations. So take a pause and define this for you.

On knowing the difference between complacency and reality

I am often asked, “Pradnya, if I am not pushing myself enough to be enough than am I not getting complacent. How can I know the difference?”

Your body is your answer. When you feel burned out or overwhelmed beyond the 4% of motivational stress, you are pushing yourself too hard. The best way to know the difference is listening to your body. Asking yourself “Is this really complacency or this is what I can do in this season of my life?” “How can I not feel guilty or not being enough with this season of mine?”

Last contemplations

Leaving all of you with some potent questions for you to guage your progress and elevate your career -

• Where do you feel enough in your career?

• Where do you feel you can push a little more in your career?

• What is your body telling you in terms of being enough?

• If you knew you are good enough to apply for that dream job, how would you showcase your resume?

Let these questions be the pivot point for you to being enough and knowing you are enough and going for the best (according to you) with an inner knowing of the magician that you are <3

Much love,
Pradnya 

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