2023 Lessons in Life, Death, Relationships and Career

“Believe in Your Heart…..
Believe in your heart that you're meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic and miracles.”

~ Roy T. Bennett

With a year coming to an end and a new year rising on the horizon, I wanted to bring hope for those who felt this year was a disappointment, solace to those who experienced grief in its’ most painful form, love to each of my reader and some uplifting lessons for you to elevate your life, relationships and career moving into 2024. I firmly believe all of us are equal and connected. One human’s life lessons can help someone find a easier path to navigate their lessons and break the karma patterns.

So here are some of my life lessons to help you elevate your life, relationships and career -

On death…..

2023 has been the year when we received the news of a loved one having stage 4 renal cancer spread to the lungs. It was a day when all of us were heart broken. I had to take support from my mentor to navigate through this devastating news. My mentor asked me one simple question, “Pradnya, you identify yourself as a spiritual being. Then do you believe death is the end of it all?”

And I stopped in my tracks. My mentor asked me to explore death and what happens post death to us. Create my own philosophy on death. This exercise helped me immensely in seeing death in a new light. If you lost a loved one this year and are still grieving, I invite you to do the same. Create your own philosophy around death.

I am sharing mine here -

On judgement…..

Phoebe Kuhn says - Where there is judgment, there is separation. There is a part of us that says "I cannot accept this thing". The things we judge in others we disown in ourselves. These aspects of our consciousness remain unintegrated and act as walls that keep us from experiencing deeper love and connection, both with ourselves and with others. When we feel judged by others, what we are feeling is the projection of their lack of love for the part that exists within them that we represent.

Pay attention to the things you judge and ask yourself, "can I learn to love and accept the part of me that actually is this, or secretly desires it?" When you notice others who are judgemental of you, don't take it personally. It's a great indicator of how much work they've done on themselves. Typically, the more accepting and loving we are of others, the more work we've done to love and accept ourselves.

On ego….

This year I have been angry, extremely angry. I have been planning and plotting scenarios in my head about how I will give back to a certain person for the way they behaved a year ago. And I have the opportunity now to speak out.

But.......

I have not been able to speak out not because I do not have the courage, but somewhere my conscience did not allow me to do so.

Our ego has ways to convince us to prove that we are right. And many a times, in this quest of proving ourselves right we forget everything else. Ruining what we have built already.

I have wasted endless days in this anger only to realise I am giving away my power to someone else to affect me rather than holding this power with me.

This has been a time for me to actually apply all the tools I share with my clients in similar situations.

In the choice of proving to be right vs the peace of my mind, I choose the latter.

I ask myself, "When I say all those vindictive things I want to say to this person, how long will my happiness last?"

Chances are I am going to regret it more than feeling that vindication. And I go back to choosing my peace of mind. I feel it is the biggest strength I have shown so far.

What is more important to you - Proving to be Right or Peace of Mind? Choose wisely.

On being stuck…..

I am realizing being stuck comes from fear or a sense of being a victim. When you go deep to peel the layers of your stuckness, you will realize the root too. Feeling stuck is not bad, it shows you that you have some processing, some shame, some fear and/ or insecurities that are ready to release and shed.

Ask yourself, “Beneath this stuckness what lesson lies and what wants to be released?”

That will be your pivot point to move from the stagnancy.

On perfect marriages…..

Let me bust the myth for you. There are no perfect marriages and no perfect parents. What exist in reality are imperfect people trying their best.

Marriage is never 50-50. There are times when a partner needs to pour in more and vice versa. Together we make 100 % depending on the season which we are in. When we will accept this truth with grace, we will open up opportnunities in our relationships to be humble, to be thankful and to be considerate in seeing ourselves and our partners with how much we can provide every single day.

On being a perfect parent….

Earlier this year, I was in great stress thinking about how will my son make friends. My heart sank when at the park some boys did not include him in their play. It was a tumultous time for me as a mother seeing my child not being included. I took the responsibility of taking on my son’s lessons on me and went for an unattainable task of being for him always. Let me tell you it is not possible.

What I am learning from this is I can teach my son the resileince to fight his battles and navigate his lessons but I CANNOT fight his battkles for him. And off went the layer of being a perfect parent in that realization. He has come with his own karma and his own life lessons to learn, I cannot shoulder those for him.

When I let go of that burden off my shoulders, my son today has his own friends, whom he chose and adores spending his time with.

On discovering your magic……

We all have magic inside us, magic in the form of our innate gifts and who we really are at our core. We human beings are pure magic. What stops us from accessing our magic are the gender inhibitors - fear, ‘I am not good enough’ belief and guilt to name a few.

A client two weeks ago walked into my ‘discover your gifts’ 1:1 call. As we tapped into her subconscious, we realised she has a real gift with young kids. In that moment she confessed for the first time that she is actaully working on a book for teenagers talking about positive body image. A safe space and an expert can help you unleash your truest potential faster and easier.

Here is how you can start unlocking your magic - Get to know yourself. Means recognizing that you are worthy and deserving of all the good things in the world. You are good enough, you have always been. It's about time you realize that you are your biggest asset. Without this understanding, there is no way for you to tap that magic within.

There is a lot of noise in this world, that our inner voices get drowned. So spend time with yourself. Take the time away from the crowd and listen to the voice within.

I would love to know your life lessons of this year and add it to our collective elevation. So hit reply and share your bit of learnings. I will then do a prayer for all of us asking the Universe to integrate these life lessons for us as a collective and elevate us together.

I hope your 2024 is everything you have wished for and more! Sending all of you lots of love.

Much love,
Pradnya 

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