How to Let Go of the Regrets of the Year?

As another year comes to an end, I am sure many of us are sitting with regrets of unfulfilled dreams and unmet goals. You might not have received the promotion which you have been waiting for years. You might not have completed the certification which you had set a goal for. Or you might not have received that one accolade you were looking forward to.

The decisions which should have been a ‘yes’ and the opportunities which should have been a ‘yes’ and you said ‘no’ and vice versa. And the list goes on of our regrets.

So what is regret?

Regret is “a comparison-based emotion of self-blame, experienced when people realize or imagine that their present situation would have been better had they decided differently in the past”.

Our clues to transforming from regret to contenment or satisfaction lies in this definition. Let’s explore it together.

Clue 1 - Comparison
The what ifs that we strangle ourselves with are innumerable and the root of it all lies in comparison. What if I had networked with this lady? What if I had taken that different project? What if I had taken a sabbatical?

And the comparison of our ‘what if’ world and today’s reality is the regret.

The easiest and fastest way to change this narrative is to apply this ‘what if’ aligning to the current scenario.
Eg.: “What if the current decision I took is the best decision?”
“What if I learn from my mistakes this year and apply them for future?”
“What if where I am today and what I am doing currently is the best possible scenario in the current circumstances?”

The ‘what if’ game can be played this way too!

Clue 2 - Self blame

One of the major hindrances in us accessing our gifts is self blame and our own self critique. We get so blindfolded with the self blame and our so called faults that we just cannot see our gifts. Regret is this blinding.

The way out of self blame is self praise and reminder of the achievements big and small of this year. Create a list of these, read and re read it to fill your entire body with this sense of celebration. Let the self blame melt away with this energy of celebration.

Clue 3 - Differently

Ok, so this year may be you did not receive what you have been expecting. Let’s see how we can see things in a ‘different’ light. I love this tool so much that I always bring a different light into my clients’ limited perspective for them to look beyond.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
-Wayne Dyer

There are two ways in which you can look at this. First is change your perspective towards failure as the stepping stone towards success.

Second is if you want a different result than what you received this year, change the things you are doing currently. Meaning make different efforts, approach it differently or simply do something which you have not done before towards this goal.

That is it! Our clue trail to the treasure of being staisfied from regret. Christmas is tomorrow and this is my gift to you all. This treasure trail. Walk on it and experience it first hand.

May this year’s regrets be the foundation of your next year’s success.

If you are finding letting go of your regrets difficult even after reading this newsletter, be open to share the same with me. I will reply personally to you on ways you can transform your individual regret into satisfaction.

Much Love,
Pradnya 

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