Our kids are going to need us as their primary caregivers, but.........

I was telling my son yesterday, "Tomorrow Mumma has a session to facilitate. So Baba will be picking you up from the school bus. Mumma will return back by dinner time”.

Followed by the usual instructions of where he can find what in my absence.

As we were in bed getting ready to sleep, my son casually asked me "Can you not cancel your workshop tomorrow?"

My first reaction was to feel frustrated and angry. That even when everything will be taken care of for him with his dad, why is he still asking this question. I went back to the time when I felt helpless not working. The feeling of everyone else’s life going back to normal except mine. The memory brought a bitter taste on my tongue.

I shaked it off. It was not the same now. My body still remembered. I reassured my body, my brain and my nervous system that I am safe.

I took a deep breath.

And I said, "Of course Mumma can cancel the session. However the thing is Mumma does not want to cancel the session. Because I love taking sessions and workshops".

In the darkness, I could not see his face but could feel his body fidgeting. Which meant he had unprocessed feelings towards this.

So I took our talk further and said to him, "How did you feel when football was cancelled this Monday due to rain?"

He replied, "I was looking forward to it. I felt sad".

And I told him Mumma feels the same about her work. She loves her work and would love to go facilitate that session instead of canceling.

I could feel his body relaxing into the bed with that.


We, as moms, are going to be the primary caregivers for our kids most of their lives. But we also have a choice. We can be a frustrated mom catering to them all the time, when in reality we want to be at our work desk. Go back to work. Be financially independent.

Or else we can bring this awareness to our kids and be a happy career mom.


They will still need you. They will still want you all the time. They will still feel you should be at home.

I know it is a constant battle for us.

But at the same time, they will see a happy mom who is going for her dreams. Our kids deserve that. Don't they?

And you deserve to go for your dreams.
Go apply to that dream job.
Go apply to the return back to work program.
Go pitch to that person you always wanted to.
Go start that business.
Go, go for that dream <3

And I am sitting here, being your loudest cheer leader.
And I am here to listen to what you have to say.
And I am here to hold that space for you if you do not know how to do it from here.
I am here. I am here. I am here.

Enjoy......

I love you all.

Xx Pradnya xX

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