What to do when a friend cut you off without notice or communication?

Two years ago, someone blocked me on WhatsApp. I did not even know the reason why. It hurt tremendously. It felt like unfinished business with no closure on the ‘why’.

I brooded and I cried. Kept on telling my husband on how can someone do that to me. ‘To me’ meant someone who keeps on looking out for others. How can that me be treated this way. “What did I do wrong to be rejected this way?” was a question which kept on hovering inside my head.

Rejection makes you feel like that. Like you are not worthy enough. Or that something is wrong with you.

And a few days ago, a client of mine asked this question what they should do because a friend cut them off without notice or communication. And all my learnings from this episode 2 years ago came running inside me which I imbibed processing this grief with my mentor.

Here’s what I replied:

"As I learn with age, I’ve come to accept that some people won’t like me. They won’t enjoy my presence, my ideas, or what they perceive as weakness—simply because they don’t get me or don’t want to.

And that’s okay.

The need to be liked fades, but so does the need to judge those who don’t like me.

Yet, deep inside, there’s still a part of me—that inner child—who feels confused when people choose to walk away, when they decide not to know me or be part of my life anymore. But she’s learning. Learning that when someone pulls away, dislikes, or refuses to communicate, it’s not always about me. It’s about them—about what they want, about who or what they’re seeking.

As long as I have learned, been authentic, taken responsibility where I can, and left nothing unsaid, then I know that some chapters simply close sooner than we realised.

But if I still have feelings left inside—hurt, annoyance, unanswered questions—then I go and set them free. I release the pain from my body so it doesn’t cloud my next friendship. Because I don’t want the past to rule who else comes into my life.

And while it may sting in moments, I remind myself: sometimes, you could do no more.

So, you learn to let them go.

And that feels kind of nice."

If you have lost someone due to them moving on without you, I would love to know what you learned, so anyone going through it can feel held, less alone and supported.

Hit reply and share.

Love,
Xx Pradnya xX

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